It is common to always have friends that become glued to us at childhood and end up being with us all the way to adulthood. While growing up in the Northern Area of the Country where I was born, I was so introverted and that affected me both positively and negatively. I had few friends who were like family to me. So when deeply hurt or betrayed by them, it deeply hurts. As I grew along the years to become a teenager, I came in contact with someone who was like me. We were in the same class, were drawn and attracted to same kind of things though she was a bit taller than I was and a year older too.
We were so fond of each other that anywhere you saw me, you saw her and vice versa. She was like my right hand. As things turned out, it came to a time when we were to move to another state. I was so heartbroken and oh how much I was going to miss my dear friend. Luckily for me, we got admission to same University and I was happy once again.
Seeing my friend who I left for a while again, I thought everything was going to be the same but alas it wasn’t. I didn’t know at first until some things began to happen. I discovered that people started talking and pointing fingers at me for what I had no idea about. I didn’t bother myself as I knew I had done nothing to offend anyone. Somewhere along the line, an older person confronted me and said, “You are a bad example. Is it the new state you moved to that turned you into this?” I was dumbfounded because I didn’t have a slight idea about what I was being accused of. Well that wasn’t the only thing. I one day bumped into this beautiful friend of mine. I didn’t recognize her at all as she started something I don’t have a descriptive word for. She would come to school and change her appearance to what was in vogue.
I confronted her about it and she picked a fight out of it instead. When I got to where I reside outside of school, I sat to think and put one and two together and everything made sense to me. The accusation I received earlier that week was clear now. I had reasons to confront her now. I did again and it became clear to me what was happening. She was asked where she got the outfits she wore from and she said, she got them from me. What!!! How can someone be this mean to include someone into what they have no idea of to cover up their tracks? The straw that broke the camel’s back was when her parents came to confront me. I ended the friendship that existed between us right there and then. I couldn’t take no more.
I thought ending it was going to be easy, but it was difficult as I became emotionally distraught for a long time. This one action made me grew, I made up my mind not to go back to that friendship but somehow somewhere I was still watching her and hoping for a change. When it grew from bad to worse, her parents came to me and were pleading with me to become her friend again. I tried and tried but I was getting myself worked up for nothing. Right there, right then, I made a decision that if I wanted to go the wrong way, let me do that on my own and not be accused of leading someone else astray when I have no intention of doing such.
When people started asking of her not knowing the current situation of things, they saw me as a bad friend at first but when they found out for themselves, they saluted my courage and my making such a hard decision.
There are some things or people that are so dear to us that at one point or the other, our association with them always put us in the wrong spotlight. For those of you who have boldly taken the step of cutting off from them, I salute your decision. If I may ask, I wouldn’t be surprised at how difficult it was for you to take that decision. To those of you who are still halting between two opinions, I encourage you to make the best decision for yourself.
If your right eye serves as a trap to ensnare you or is an occasion for you to stumble and sin, pluck it out and throw it away. It is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be cast into hell. And if your right hand serves as a trap to ensnare you or is an occasion for you to stumble and sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better that you lose one of your members than that your entire body should be cast into hell. Matthew 5:29,30 (AMP)
And if your hand puts a stumbling block before you and causes you to sin, cut it off! It is more profitable and wholesome for you to go into life [that is really worthwhile] maimed than with two hands to go to hell, into the fire that cannot be put out. And if your foot is a cause of stumbling and sin to you, cut it off! It is more profitable and wholesome for you to enter into life [that is really worthwhile] crippled than, having two feet, to be cast into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble and sin, pluck it out! It is more profitable and wholesome for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell. Mark 9:43-47 (AMP)
These are verses of the scriptures that to some people is a cliché. The truth is that it is so real that it can be applied to everyday living to become someone better. What is it or who is it that is as dear as these important parts of your body that is causing you to stumble on your part to greatness? Who are those or what are those things that have trapped you and hindered you from becoming a better person. Look within and around you and make that decision to cut them off. You may say. “but I love it so much, that’s who I am, I can’t stop doing this or that, what will people say?” and a host of other things. As you journey in your life’s boat to success, there would be baggages (habits, attitudes, people, possessions, name it) that you need to throw out else they would cause your boat to sink.
Some of you, you talk anything, everything, and you talk away your plans and dreams. You offend with your words, people can’t trust you with what bothers them because they will hear it from another. Keep quiet for some time and you would see how much you would achieve in silence. I learnt from my addictive corner – THYPRECIOUSJEWELS, that “A sealed lips is a sealed destiny”
Are you the one that is so covetous? You want to have everything by all means and this leads you to become a fraud. Be contented and see how beautiful life would be.
Maybe its that awesome friend of yours who tells you not to go that way not because he/she cares but for selfish reasons as he/ she sees how great and talented you are. The sooner you decide how he/she controls your boat, the faster you sail towards and attain greatness.
The list goes on and on but let me leave you with these words. “Find that trap and set yourself loose from it.”
God bless you.
Copyright© Plenitude 2015
2 thoughts on “WHAT? AM I TRAPPED?”
well said sis….I had a friend I had to cling to for so long even though the relationship did me more harm than good. I found out longing to continue in such relationship either physically or psycologically is often an offshoot of low self esteem. Lots and Abraham had to path ways at some points. 7 friends cannot be friends for seven years.
Very well said my dear… I salute your decision.