Looking fabulous in my wedding dress, I was all smiles from ear to ear. Being good at keeping mute and just smiling, deep down in my heart, I was looking forward to spending the rest of my life with this man whose hand I was holding that beautiful Saturday. I was looking marriage right in the eye and telling myself that in the midst of falling marriages and the high rate of divorce, I was going to by the help of God do all required of me to make my marriage a blissful one and my home a haven for my husband and children.
Marriage they say is an eye opener if Love is blind. For me Love was never blind, it was alert and its sights were 100% sharp. So Love and Us entered marriage with our eyes wide open and we were so ready to work hand in hand down this path. I for one with my principles and temperamental qualities is a difficult equation to solve. I was very rigid with my principles as a single lady so coming into marriage, it became so much work to work on. Mind you, these principles were what kept me focused while waiting. They kept me on my toes and made me teachable and ever learning.
Just like they say there are so many ways to arrive at one answer, same was the case with me and my spouse, we said or understood the same thing through different knowledge paths that sometimes, most discussions or even arguments ended with, “that’s also what I am trying to say”.
For a while after that beautiful Saturday event, I woke up everyday feeling like nothing changed except that I was now co-living with my boyfriend who I deeply love. I remembered waking up and going through the day and then asking my husband, “so we are married?” Very funny question right? It wasn’t funny then being the new wife that I am as some still refer to me as Iyawo (new wife)… Hehehe…
I’ve come to the conclusion that who you listen to about marriage experience matters. If those around you are always wanting to know what’s happening in your home, they don’t mean well. True people who care about your marriage will wait till you decide to tell them anything and when it comes to advising, they’ll give you one where you are not excluded. (Advices for the wife is another topic)
During the first few days after I do, they were spent thanking friends and family, and beginning the journey of understanding my newest Bedmate, Roommate and Housemate.
Stay tuned as “The Christian Wife’s Diary” continues…
Mrs O’ loves you big.