In the world we live in, it’s unavoidable to have times when we would be offended or “angry.” But how we respond to such emotion matters a lot. So many people have lost opportunities, relationships, families, friends, associates and even businesses simply because they couldn’t control their anger. So many have acted in a way that ignited fires which burnt the bridges they once crossed thereby depriving others of a way.
“A quick tempered person does stupid things…” ~ Proverbs 14:17a
I remember when I was very angry some years back. I was so angry that I was shaking and when the opportunity came to meet the person, I responded in a way that I regretted. One would say my response was justifiable but I later knew, I could have done better. Yes, I did apologize even though I was not the one at fault but for my outburst. Over the years, I have also learnt so many valuable lessons as I found myself angry. Funny enough, I still get angry but how I respond is what has changed. I fell in love with “PATIENCE.”
“A patient person is very smart. A quick-tempered person makes stupid mistakes.” ~ Proverbs 14:29
Before we go on, if you have never been angry or no one has ever offended you. This post is not for you.
- Take several deep breaths and think of something else. Blank out completely if possible.
- Think of all the good things the person has done and if none, begin to remember every bible verse you know and start to read them out from memory. If you can’t remember anyone, begin to count the alphabet from Z – A.
- In addition, don’t say anything. If face to face, simply stay quiet. If virtual, just put the phone down and wait till the person drops the line or you politely tell the person you will return his/her call. Ensure you have gotten over it before you return the call. If it via email or message, type it out and read it. Come back and read it again and by the third time, if you have corrected it so many times, we are getting somewhere.
- Some people derive joy is seeing others angry, don’t let their joy cause you to act like a fool. It’s okay to cry if it helps and it is also okay to laugh. It’s even fine if you do both.
- Last and most importantly, pray about it. Those simple prayers of “Father help me as I am getting so angry now.” “Lord please help me not to make a wrong move.” And so on. Those are prayers that get ‘on-the-spot’ answers.
Scriptural thoughts: Proverbs 29:11, Ephesians 4:26-27, James 1:19-20.