This is one job that no matter how prepared you are, experience is not a requirement.
When I was going to be a mom, I read books, did research and God bless Prof Google. Almost any question you ask, there is an answer because someone somewhere has asked it before. Should I say I was prepared? Well I don’t even know how to say it because, when Bambie arrived, those information I had were almost irrelevant. This thing called “mother instincts” got activated and that’s how the journey began.
I never used to carry new born babies because I felt, they’ll just break. Now see our little one right before our eyes and no training on how to carry one. I didn’t even remember I didn’t use to carry them or that they would break, I just wanted to carry my baby and same with my boyfriend. No amount of training prepares you for this kind of thing.
Hearing the opinions of people during this journey is one you cannot avoid. Even outright strangers would give their own opinion. Taking it into consideration is your choice. I remember the numerous “dos” and “don’ts” and some were just so absurd. The ones I listened to with great attention were those given by the pediatrician. Every other ones, I weighed. It would surprise you that some people may use words like, “Are you the first to have a child?” “Was I not a mother too?” And some others. While these words are insensitive and can pose as some sort of emotional blackmail, listen to your heart and the guidance from the Holy Spirit. Trust me, when you are a mom, the antenna of your inner eyes, nose, mouth, hand, eye and mind is very effective.
So dear beautiful Mom, don’t let anyone make you feel less of a mom simply because you didn’t follow the ancient path set by our ancestors. Listen to the voice within your heart, stay attentive to your feelings, many times they are 100% correct. There is no manual for this journey, you make your own manual as you go along. And guess what, it’s peculiar to each child. So one size doesn’t fit all and there is not only one road on these journey.
To all you beautiful moms, I say, “Go Momma, you’ve got this and God has got your back.”
With love from me. God bless you all.