Today, I have decided to talk about a very sensitive topic – Marriage.

I have tried my best not to say anything about this because, I am still a young wife and have a lot to learn on this lifetime journey. But hey, I’ll share it so that it won’t choke me. Hehehehe.

Marriage is like a “Partnership Business” where everyone should have 100% share holding. For some, they have decided to invest 10% or even 50% and thereby causing the other to either invest the remaining 50% or 90% for them. Let’s be honest, any business that is run this way may as well be called a “Sole Proprietorship” or like we call it “One man business.”

Marriage is a business that would suffer if both partners don’t give their 100%. I hear often when people say Marriage is 50-50. Well for me, way before I got married, I had always told myself that when I find the man for me, I will give my 100%. I remember the discussion coming up and someone said, how would I do such? Well I asked her, who am I keeping the remaining 50% for? Many healthy and godly marriages are those where both partners gave their 100%. Well some may have even started off as a 40-60 or 70-30 kind of relationship but later became a 100-100 one. This means if you are still doing 50-50, you can still get to 100-100.

In the business of  marriage where its operated on a 100-100 basis, any blow is felt by both partners, the good and bad times are enjoyed and endured together. But in others, the 40 or 50 or 90 that was kept aside is immediately utilized and then such marriage businesses are almost irredeemable.

Now, you will be surprised to know that some who have failed in this business venture, at the beginning invested their 100%. One day they decided to listen to opinions of people who aren’t on the board of trustees of their business and without checking with their partner either started to keep some part away or began to show some attitude. Many times, these advisers may be jealous of your booming business or altogether known for giving terrible advice due to ignorance and they would give one that would send it crashing. You must learn to sieve these loads of advice and opinions. Pass it through the board (The Trinity) and through your partner as well.

Just like every business venture, what you sow is what you reap. You can’t get what you don’t put it; but mind you, you might put in and not get same or more back. That’s synonymous to the risk we take in actual business and hey, we don’t just give up when we get hit if we want to succeed. As a married person, if you have been investing anything less than 100%, start now to begin to increase it. I am not saying that go all out and invest especially if it looks like the business is crumbling. Rather, sit with your partner and the board and discuss how to go forward. You both may just have to start  investing 20, then 30, then 50, then 100 together to achieve success. For others who have caused their partners to give 150%, it’s time, you put in your balance and balance the scale.

Dear Singles, what’s your investment plan towards your marriage business? Is it 10% or 50% or 100%. Times are changing, people are now understanding the scriptures better and they are learning to “Watch before praying.” So if you think you would easily get someone who is ready to invest 100 and you 10 and make him/her invest another 90 to balance the scale; you may as well just join the wait list because, the Chairman of the Board of these businesses, isn’t dozing. He is wide awake and working round the clock to ensure these businesses prosper and succeed 100%.

Alright, I drop my pen now. Until later, God bless you and lots of love from me to you.

Published by Phebe

Hello, I'm Phebe! (Pronounced "fee bee") My friends call me Phebs or Phebet! I wear many hats (Wife, Mom, Architect, Designer, Business owner and so on) and I try to blend them beautifully by God’s Grace.


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