Oh yeah!!! Welcome back.
It looks like this subject on marriage is becoming a series. But who knows, I believe that so far it’s impressed in my heart to share, someone needs to read this. Marriage topics are not what I think I should talk or write about very often, as I am but a young wife and a student of this lifetime institution.
Now, when you buy a machine or anything that involves assembling, you will always have a guide or set of instructions within the package. Sometimes they even ask if you need an assembly expert. Marriages are like machines with no assembly guide or step by step instruction. Every day is a new assembly instruction. So your guide cannot work for another. It can only work for the users of the machine – parents and children. This is because you are the user and you know the machine better than anyone.
Now, EACH MARRIAGE HAS IT’S UNIQUE ASSEMBLY GUIDE. You should not use another’s guide. If you do, it will just end up causing problems and if care is not taken to correct it, you might just end up with a faulty or altogether destructive machine; and what you will need at this time would be the expertise of assembly expert – the Holy Spirit. If your assembly expert cannot fix it, He would recommend checking in with the factory – God – for a redesign.
Now to even make it more interesting.
- Do you know that these machines may look alike but be of different brands?
- Do you know that they can even be the same brand but different model?
Ah ha! Now you are like, yes. Oh yes… the model, the brand, the type,and even the year has a great role to play in its assembling. Marriages may look alike in that, you may have a Christian husband/wife like A and a sweet hands on spouse like B. Well, yes they look alike but have you checked the brand of that marriage, the model and even the year?
Now you can have two marriages which are 10 years old and very very differently assembled. Or even same model – Christian – but differently assembled too. They may even be of same brand – family, faith, denomination – but assembled differently as well. So also, you would have a marriage of 30years assembled differently and another of 5years old assembled differently too. Though that of 5years may be looking as though it would turn out to be like that of 30years; just remember that years of assembling has gone into that of 30 and that of 5 just began.
So next time, before you use someone’s else assembly guide or instructions, remember they had to make their own guide; and there is a reason marriages have no assembly guide or instruction. God intentionally left it so, same as our choices so we can make them and be responsible for them. Now God is original and hence, wants your marriage to be original. Not a copy. So both of you, get down to writing those original instructions.
Are you married and wanting your marriage to be like A or B? I’m afraid you are trying to assemble your marriage with someone else’s guide and this won’t work. Are you preparing for this journey? Get ready to create your own unique guide. Mind you, I don’t expect you to do this on your own, involve the assembly expert and as often as possible, feel free to check with the factory for latest products for an upgrade.
From now on I want you to see marriage as a Christmas present wrapped in a box, un-box and begin assembling with joy because God’s desire is that we enjoy the beautiful joys of marriage, don’t go assembling yours like mine and neither will I assemble mine like yours. Variety is the spice of life. And yes originality is everything.
I don’t know what I am going to write on next but see you next time on a continuation of these series.
God bless you and stay beautiful. Much love.