#BWPC – DAY 1

Today we will be praying on Forgiveness and Submission.

If you have come to this challenge hurt or having something you are still holding against your spouse, you will need to address it first. Well for others, maybe it’s not now but sometime in the year, you got unhappy with your spouse and you two didn’t properly settle it but just let it slide and when he does one or two things, it triggers this buried hurt, you will need to address it too.

Submission is a debatable topic but as Christians the word of God should supersede all debates. A woman doesn’t have to be rebellious or contentious in her marriage to be non-submissive. God is the all knowing one and he sees our hearts as much as he sees our actions. Many of us aren’t submissive in our conversation, in our decisions and other areas. The reality of Christian marriage is that no matter how much we do or say, it doesn’t change God’s order of things neither the word of God.

PRAYER POINTS

• Father I thank you for the opportunity to come before you to pray, I ask that the blessings attached to participating and the testimonies that follows will be mine in Jesus Name.

Mark 11:24-25 (NLT) “I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too. ””

• Father, I have come to raise an altar to you for the next 12 days. I bring my heart to you, it’s been hurt and I know that I cannot pray and expect answers without forgiving. Let the healing power of your touch flow through ever part of my heart and quiet the raging storm or anger. I know I can’t do it on my own and so I ask that you help me. I forgive (husbands name) in Jesus Name.

1 John 1:9 (NCV) “But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrongs we have done.”

You don’t need to commit an obvious sin for your prayers to be hindered. Unforgiveness is as much a sin that can hinder any prayer. So today, we will be confessing every of our anger, our hurts to the Lord and putting the Lord in charge of cleansing us of this hurt.

• Dear Lord, (husband’s name) has done (mention it), but I know holding on to it is sin in your eyes. So today Lord this is how I feel (mention it). If you oh Lord have not kept record of all my wrong doings and dealt with me so, I erase every of my husband wrong doings and I ask that the mercy that sorted me out is accorded (husband’s name) today in Jesus Name.

Colossians 3:18 (MSG) “Wives, understand and support your husbands by submitting to them in ways that honor the Master.”

• Father where it is that I have not been an understanding and supportive wife by questioning the authority of my husband, today I ask that you forgive me Lord. You have placed him in a position of authority over me as it pleases you and I ask today that you help me understand that and seek to support him by respecting your order in this marriage.

James 1:19-20 (NCV) “My dear brothers and sisters, always be willing to listen and slow to speak. Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants.”

• Father, I know many at times, I have not shown submission by my unwillingness to listen and by talking too early and getting angry so quickly. This is not the kind of wife you designed me to be. Today I ask that you forgive me and I put my ears under submission to listen and my mouth under submission to talk at the right time and when I’ve thought things through and to also not be a fool that gets angry so fast, because Lord your word says that “anger rests in the bosom of a fool.”

Ephesians 4:29 (NCV) “When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you.”

The words that pierce through the heart like a knife is one said by a spouse. This is because you will expect them to only say words that are kind and would build one up. How many times have your words been so destructive? How many times have your words brought down your husband? How many time have your husband got to thinking about what you just said?

• We’ll pray and say Father, where it is my words have broken down my husband, done him more harm and even reduced him to nothing, I ask that you forgive me Lord. From today, my words would build my husband, my words would make him stronger, my words would the right one said in season in Jesus name.

Lastly, Ephesians 4:2-3 (NCV) “Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love. You are joined together with peace through the Spirit, so make every effort to continue together in this way.”

We all want our husbands to accept us for who we are. We want them to look past our insufficiency and love us anyway. How about us? Have we come to accept him as he is? Have we come to realize that he is different from other people’s husbands? Do we see ourselves better than him simply because according to society standards, he isn’t up to our level but we married him anyway?

• Today, we’ll end this session by saying, Lord have mercy on me for all the times I compared my husband with others, for all the times I was a nagging wife because he couldn’t satisfy me like the other woman’s husband did her or I felt I was above him in every standard. Lord, from today, the peace that a union sealed by Christ experiences will be mine. Father, from today, I will be humble, gentle and patient with my husband in Jesus Name.

DECLARATIONS AND CONFESSIONS

• I declare that according to the divine order of Christian Marriage as God designed, I will be submissive to (husband’s name) in all ways that pleases the Lord.
• I will not be move by the ideologies of man to see myself as the authority in my marriage but respect the position the Father -God has accorded you.
• I declare that my ears will listen, heart process, before my mouth speak.
• I declare that I will not be a fool who carries about an angry spirit.
• I confess my unhappiness towards (husband’s name) and I declare that until he reaches the biblical limit for offense in a day, I will always forgive him.
• I confess my impatience many times and I declare over me a peaceful nature that will help me be gentle and patient with my husband always.

All these I have confessed and declared in the name of the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen!!!

Thank you for joining in today; see you tomorrow.

God bless you.