Welcome to Day Two.
Today we would be praying about COMMUNICATION.
Communication in marriage is like blood in our veins. A lack of it can cause choking that we feel it even in our heart. There are some homes represented here that the communication between you and your husband is dying or let me mildly put it as suffering. Sometimes, you ask yourself, “How did I get here? What did I do wrong? Where did I miss it?” Sometimes, you didn’t do anything. Sometimes, you didn’t miss anything. And that becomes even difficult to understand.
Aside communication with our spouses, how is our communication with our children? A lack of communication or wrongful methods of communication between spouses can spill into that with children. When your husband don’t tell you what you have done wrong and gives you the silent treatment, it can be heartbreaking. How about those times, you gave your husband the silent treatment instead of communicating to him what he had done wrongly?
Just as we talk to God and expects Him to hear us and answer us, So also, we expect same from our husbands and he also expects same from us.
I am sorry Lord for all the times, I ignored my husband while he was talking to me because I was angry with him. I am sorry Lord for the silent wars I began just to express my dissatisfaction. Where it is Lord that I have contributed to the collapse of communication in my marriage, I ask for your mercy Lord. I acknowledge my part and I am sorry Lord. From this moment, I say the war is over. The silent treatment is over.
Proverbs 14:1 EXB – A wise woman strengthens her family [builds her house], but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does [tears hers down with her own hands].
Father, where it is that I have put up a wall such that my husband cannot speak to me, I pull down those walls and I give you permission to make them plain. [Husband’s name], you have access to me. When you have offended me, I will speak lovingly and respectfully with you about it. I declare that from today, no unresolved issues, see the light of the next day. We will go to sleep having a beautiful communication and wake up having a beautiful communication, in Jesus Name.
It is inevitable that in marriages, there’ll be times when we argue with our spouses. But in the midst of those argument, what are our (husband and wife) words like?
Proverbs 18:2 EXB – Fools do not want to understand anything [delight in understanding]. They only want to tell others what they think [reveal/disclose their heart].
Proverbs 10:19 EXB – If you talk a lot [ In an abundance of words], you are sure to sin [ wickedness does not cease]; if you are wise, you will keep quiet [ restrain your lips].
Father, help [Husband’s name} and I to know when to keep quiet and listen to each other and when to speak up. Every foolish spirit trying to control us and make us feel we are always right, I silence you by the power of God.
Proverbs 18:21 GW – The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will have to eat their own words.
James 1:19 GW – Remember this, my dear brothers and sisters: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and should not get angry easily.
Lord in the midst of our misunderstanding and arguments, help us to not kill one another with our words. Help me Lord to always hear before I speak. Help my husband to always hear me before he speaks and even at the time when we will open our mouths, Let our words be life, let our words be backed up with wisdom, let our words bring healing to the situation in Jesus Name.
Most Men don’t like to communicate. Sometimes this is not intentional. Its just how they are wired. It can be so disturbing when you clearly see your husband in pain and you just can’t help him. I remember my husband just being quiet, I thought perhaps, I have done something but deep down I knew I had done nothing. So I whispered a prayer to God and just as we were about to sleep, I said, “babe, is there any problem? You’ve been so quiet and I just wanted to see if all was fine.” He said nothing to me and just went to bed. Very early when I woke up, he shared with me what the problem was and I still can’t remember what I said to him because, he was so happy like he won a jackpot.
Proverbs 25:11 CEB – Words spoken at the right time are like gold apples in a silver setting.
Lord, when my husband is down and he wants to be alone, remind him that I am his help meet and he should speak with me and find comfort in my words. At those times Lord, help me to have the right words to bring peace and calmness. And for this Lord, cause my husband to feel comfortable opening up to me about everything in Jesus name.
Our children watch us and how we communicate to one another, they are learning. I remember talking to my husband and while we were joking sounding funny, our first born repeated the same thing and we were amazed. Then we looked at each other and I said, “hmmm, they are watching.”
Ephesians 4:29 GW – Don’t say anything that would hurt another person. Instead, speak only what is good so that you can give help wherever it is needed. That way, what you say will help those who hear you.
Father, for all the times, our (husband and wife) words have not be helpful to even our children who heard us, on behalf of [husband’s name] and I, I ask for your mercy. I ask that you purge those words from the memory of our children and from today, only words that you approve will come out of our mouths. Our children will see us and learn from us the right way to speak, the right way to address other and when we are not there, you oh Lord will teach them yourself in Jesus name.
Lastly, you’ll pray;
Father, from today, the change in communication that I expect to see in [husband’s name], let it begin with me. I surrender all of my words, all of my thoughts and I allow and receive only thoughts and words that is approved by you in Jesus Name.
- I decree and declare that [husband’s name] will live with me in an understanding way. 1 Peter 3:7
- I decree and declare the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart is acceptable in your sight Lord. Psalm 19:14
- I decree and declare, what comes out of my mouth is good for building up, is fit for the occasion and it gives grace to those who hear me. (Ephesians 4:29)
- I decree and declare, for every time we open our mouths, our words will bring life and healing. (Proverbs 12:18)
- I decree and declare, we will be open, truthful and honest with one another. (Proverbs 28:13)
- I decree and declare, from today, the Love of God in me towards my husband covers up all his past mistakes, it wipes the slate clean and a new journey begins to a better communication between him and I; and Us and our children. (1 Peter 4:8)
These we decree and declare in Jesus Mighty Name. Amen!!!
Thank for joining me today. See you tomorrow.